Money and big life changes are two things that always test relationships – no matter how strong the relationship is. Death, marriage, having a child, a job switch, and moving are a few life changes that can cause the most stress within a relationship, and when you do feel the stress, if you do not figure out a way to fix the cause of the stress, it can get out of hand pretty quickly. To (hopefully) save couples from as much conflict, today, I wanted to talk about 5 tips for moving without stressing out your relationship as much.
5 Tips for Moving
Improve your communication
This is a great across-the-board recommendation for any relationship, no matter if moving or not. Improving your communication lines is very important because communication is the backbone of any relationship. It’s the thing that quite literally holds a relationship together! First things first, when it comes to communication – you need to be accepting and willing to listen if you want to improve the lines of communication within your marriage. You both need to be on the same page, and you both need to want this. Your partner needs to feel accepted in order to be ready to improve communication within your marriage. This means that you need to show them that you are listening to them and that you are willing to meet them in the middle. Avoid interrupting them, fighting back immediately, and getting angry with them. Instead, wait for your turn to talk, try to think of a positive way that you can rephrase your words (if you are angry), and discuss a few options that might work for both of you before jumping to conclusions. Once your partner feels accepted when he or she comes to talk to you, it will become much easier to effectively communicate and improve the communication lines within your relationship.
Have a written out game plan
A move can be simplified when you have a written out game plan, and I believe that simplifying a move is very important when more than one person is working to accomplish the goal (of moving). When moving with your significant other, create a few lists so that you both are on the same way. Your first list should be any specific dates that you need to keep in mind or workaround. Do you need to pack by a certain date? List that out! Then, include any other smaller dates that you need to achieve goals by (for example: if you need to finish packing by December 10th, you might want to have specific rooms packed by specific dates). Create smaller goals along the way while you are working towards a larger goal. Basically, write out everything you need to make sure that you both are on the same plan and know when and what needs to get done (and by who).
Give your relationship some TLC
A move is a lot of hard work, but no matter how time-consuming it might be, you absolutely need to give your relationship some TLC. If you’ve had kids before, you know that investing time into your relationship is hard to do but very worth it. The same goes for this. You might be consumed with work that needs to get done quickly, but if you do not invest time and effort into your relationship, even when it feels impossible to do, your relationship will definitely suffer.
Work together or break tasks up per person
Everyone wants an efficient move; the best way to do this is by working together or breaking tasks up per person. It’s up to you which option you choose, but just make sure that you are not trying to do the same thing at once, causing it to take longer. A better way to be more efficient with your move? Leave the tasks that you aren’t so good at (packing, lifting heavy items, etc.) for the moving professionals, like Movin’. They can help with the heavy stuff. You know those big, heavy safes? Yeah, they are used to doing gun safe moving in Salt Lake City, and if you are able to move one of those with ease, you can move just about anything.
Consider asking your friends and family for help
Last but not least, if you feel like you are getting very overwhelmed and it’s just impossible to tackle on your own, ask friends and family members for help. I am sure they will be happy to help you if you need it!
What other tips for moving would you add? Let me know in the comments.